“I didn’t go NATURAL…. I decided to cherish what I’ve been given”
“The Curly Mom Club” was created as a guide to assist other curlies worldwide, with accepting their natural hair. The content on this blog can be used as an informational source but can also serve an environment for you to express any feelings or issues you may face throughout your natural hair journey.
I was born in Cleveland, OH in 1993 to an amazing mother and a father who wasn’t really in the picture. During my childhood, my mom always made sure to keep me and my sisters hair done. I never really had an issue with my hair growing for as long as I can remember. However, by the age of 10 I received my first relaxer—I think, I can’t really remember the exact age. During my teenage years, I continued to relax my hair every 4-6 weeks and wanted to wear it bone-straight all the time. I also experimented with coloring my hair quite frequently, and it managed to grow a little past shoulder length but never longer than that. This hair abuse continued until my senior year of high school in 2011, when my mother and I both decided to big chop. This was a new experience for the both of us but we decided to tackle it together. I personally believe that I struggled the most with being limited in styling options because I had no experience with doing short hair. Having shorter hair allowed for me to build the self-confidence I needed to understand that hair doesn’t make a person. I was able to enjoy my natural hair journey, but I still didn’t quite understand that I needed to change my hair care routine in order for my hair to become healthy, so i reverted back to a few old habits. I was still coloring my hair A LOT, I wasn’t trimming my ends regularly, I applied heat to my hair more often than I should’ve, and I even applied a texturizer to my hair thinking it would be less damaging (I don’t know what I was thinking).
This lasted until 2013, which is when I decided to take a semester off from college and participate in the Disney college program. However, right before I moved to Florida for the program, I chose to big chop one more time since my hair accrued more damage and breakage. After the program, I returned to Ohio to complete my undergraduate program, and during that time I focused on achieving healthy natural hair as I struggled with trying to avoid a relaxer relapse. As a broke college student, my funds were very limited, so I had to learn how to do my own hair since I couldn’t afford to pay anybody to do it. But due to my strong love for hair, I decided to learn how to do a variety of protective styles on myself because I knew low maintenance styles could prevent breakage. This was the start of my natural hair obsession, I began doing extensive research about healthy natural hair growth and how to maintain my natural hair. As of today, my hair is now bra-strap length and I rely solely on air drying my curls. I keep my hair in protective styles about 90% of the time and only straighten my hair on special occasions—probably once every 6 to 8 months. Going natural has been one of the best decisions I’ve made—aside from becoming a mom and getting married of course. I love how healthy my hair is now and I didn’t realize how much damage my curls had until I looked back on a few old pictures.